Have you ever witnessed the aftermath of a tornado? The chaos, the destruction, the shock, the confusion and I could go on and on! What happens now? In what possible way can order and structure be created again? Where do these people turn for help in just basically knowing what comes next?
Believe it or not, sometimes our teenagers feel that same fear and confusion and overwhelming feeling of not knowing what to do next! And as badly as we parents want to feel that we can fix anything for our kid, that’s not always the case.
This same individual who could talk your ear off about everything that was possibly happening at the elementary school, is the same person who will sometimes hardly say a word to you. You, as a parent, haven’t changed, but what we need to understand is that the teenager has! In many ways.
I think one of the hardest parts of being the parent of a teen is realizing that we can’t take it personally when our teenagers need to talk to others to sort out the eruption of emotions that inhabit every teenager.
Recognizing that our teenagers may need to talk with a counselor takes a lot of courage and humility on the parents part. It’s understanding that we may know the answer but also realizing that another person might be able to communicate it better to our teen. Right now your teenager is possibly finding it hard to identify with you and will look elsewhere for someone they deem would “understand them.”
Wouldn’t you rather have a hand in deciding who is given a voice into the impressionable life of your teenager? God has given great gifts to people when it comes to listening and guiding in a Christ-like manner.
If your teen needs to talk to someone, encourage them to do so. You might be surprised at how that in itself will open up communication between the two of you!
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