II Corinthians 1:4 says, “He comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any kind of affliction, through the comfort we ourselves receive from God!”
That’s what we want for our teens when they are in chaos or stressed out or have completely shut us out! We want them to be comforted! But how can we comfort them if they won’t talk to us about what is bothering them, you ask.
That’s a good question but not necessarily the right one. Maybe a better question would be how do we define comfort.
As a parent, comforting means that they tell us what is wrong, we give them a suggestion on what to do, they follow that suggestion and all ends up right in the world. Idyllic, but not realistic.
Maybe the comfort that the Bible is speaking of is just knowing someone is there and that they are not alone. Maybe comfort isn’t words but actions. Maybe comfort is finding someone that can help our teenager articulate what is going on and knowing that our effort was better than any advice we could ever give them.
Comfort can come in the form of hot chocolate or ice cream (one of my favorites), open ears and closed lips, a smile or a hug, and especially prayer. Most especially prayer.
Just remember, comfort is not how you view, but it’s more about how your teen views it!
Walking with you,